The Saint, The Surfer and The CEO by Robin Sharma
Picked up this book by Robin Sharma, the same time I read “The Alchemist“.
The story is about Jack Valentine, and his search to learn how to live a happier, healthier and more beautiful life. The title of the book are the three guides that came to his life, to help Jack learn about the philosophy of life. There are 3 Final Questions in life:
“Have I lived wisely?” — how to conduct your life so that it’s lived in a noble and enlightened way. The importance of discovering the gifts on the inside of your life so you can live with immerse peace on the outside.
“Have I loved well? — how to love life itself and each of the moments that occur within it.
“Have I served greatly? — how to be a leader on the planet, not just in terms of career, but in terms of your life.
As I go through the book again, I see quotes that really strike me.
With the first teacher, a priest, he shares the following:
The journey of life is about spotting our weaker areas and healing them so that we eventually find our best selves.
…It (the journey of life) is not about improving oneself. It’s about remembering oneself
Success is nothing more living your life according to your own truth and on your own terms.
For your life to change, you must change. The place where your greatest fears live is also the place where your greatest growth is.
Techniques that we can use to get in touch with ourselves:
- Write down what we discover so that we have the inner conversations with ourselves: Journaling
- Take action each day to reveal the true you to the world – to close the Integrity Gap, to be authentic, be real, and by yourself.
From the Surfer, an ex-advertiser who gave it all up and lives on the beach, the following strike me:
For your life to be great, your faith must be bigger than your fears.
In the corporate world, there’s too much doing and not enough being... Live in a state of calm surrender, going with what life has in store for you.
Learn, do and then be...Moving from unconscious incompetence -> conscious competence -> unconscious competence
Adversity is the diamon dust Heaven polishes its jewels with.
Techniques for self love, self-care:
- Invest in self care activities such as getting a massage on a regular basis, taking time out to watch the starts twinkle,
- Feeding yourself with excellent food because you respect the temple that’s your body.
- Reading only the best books and listening to lovely music that sends your spirit soaring.
5 self-care practices:
- Shift from complexity to simplicity: leave space to enjoy the precious moments of life
- Daily Journaling: Answer in writing the Morning questions:
How would I live this day if I knew it was my last?
What do I have to be grateful for in my life?
What one thing could I do today to help make my life extraordinary?
What can I do to make today incredibly fun?
How can I help someone today?
- A daily period of silent retreat
- Communing with nature
- Nuturing your body. It’s the place where your spirit lives, your home. Stay fit. “Those who do not take time for exercise must eventually make time for illness” . Eating only the best foods available.
From the CEO, I learnt:
To have a better life, we must keep choosing how we are living…choosing our best thinking and our best actions. Choose how we live in every moment of our days.
Life is really short. Now is the time to raise your standards about what it means to be a person, to show the world who you really are. If not now, when?
Elite performance in career and in life is about personal accountability. Be there for the people in our life, genuinely care about people. Do the unexpected for them and give them some of yourself.
Happiness and success are the unintended yet inevitable by-products of a life spent creating value for other human beings.
Techniques/key notes:
- Have thoughtful conversations with people. Get good at conversations
- Be a value builder: Seek out ways to enrich others, improve the lot of thos who have the privilege of doing business with them.
- The purpose of life isn’t to be happy. The wold would change if we began to become consumed, not with being happier, but with being more valuable. How can I be more?…Happiness is a by-product, and it comes to those who don’t seek it.
2 reasons to be in business:
- To create value for others and for the benefit of the greater good;
- To grow as a person. To actualize who we really are, and in doing so, make peace with ourselves.
5 steps on manifesting our heart’s desires:
- Articulate a vision. Name what you desire in your life
- Develop your strategy. Break that vision down into a strategy to execute it under. Break into a week-by-week strategy, more manageable.
- Setup a self contract: Personal accountability, The Law of Diminishing Intent holds that the more time that passes after you’ve set a goal, the less likely you are to breathe life into it and to make it happen.
- Measurement. Self examination
- Celebrate your Proud moments
- Execution
The deepest of all human needs is the need to live for something more important than ourselves. Write about your legacy and what your life stand for.
There is much in the book that can be shared and learnt. The writing style is such that the author would reference to quotes, other books and using real-life stories and examples to invite readers to connect to the words and the ideas.
Nothing new in the book, but it does make one re-think and connect better with the story.
Good to read!
The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho
I finally managed to read this popular bestseller “The Alchemist” 2 weeks ago.
It is a tale about Santiago, a shepherd boy, who seeks to travel and search for a treasure that he’s been dreaming about. Went to a Gypsy lady who interpreted his dream and told him that the treasures were in Egypt. Santiago begins to embark on his journey to Egypt, after meeting a strange old man who talked about “living your Personal Legends”.
The story follows Santiago on his journey, the people he meets along the way, the situations that he encounters and the learnings from his experience.
Is this a good read?
The story is easy to follow, and like with many books that I have read recently, it’s in line with the theme on following our heart and living our dreams.
I like some parts in the book:
“What’s the world’s greatest lie?
It’s this: that at a certain point in our lives, we lose control of what’s happening to us, and our lives become controlled by fate. That’s the world’s greatest lie.”
“God revealed his secrets easily to all his creatures…things have to be transmitted this way (via word of mouth) because they were made up from the pure life, and this kind of life cannot be captured in pictures or words.
Because people become fascinated with pictures and words, and wind up forgetting the Language of the World.”
“My heart is afraid that it will suffer…
…the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself. And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams, because every second of the search is a second’s encounter with God and with eternity”
“Every search begins with beginner’s luck. And every search ends with the victor’s being severely tested.
I finished the book in 2 days. It’s not a huge book, just 173 pages. A simple tale, loaded with references on spirituality, having faith and listening to our heart. I can see why this book is popular, but it does leave this feeling of “so how can I do this in my current life now?”
This book is good for those who are just starting to hear the voices of their heart, it’s like the icing on top, just to give one an idea of the beauty of the cake. But it’s when you actually taste the cake that makes all the difference.
If you are looking for a light reading to feel some inspiration, this book should do it.
If you have been reading a lot about such a theme, then the book doesn’t share anything new that you may not have read or knew.
Experiencing life in New Zealand: Q & A
I thought it may be good to have a Q&A session, just to get my friend to share his experience in NZ. He did so it his earlier entries on why he moved, first festive seasons in a new land.
I got more out of him, so here you go:
Q: Would you continue staying in NZ for the long term?
I have not decided on this yet, given a choice, I would want to stay for a longer period, because I basically like the environment, but on the other hand, living away from family and friends for an extended period of time does not sound like a good idea to me.
Q: After staying NZ for awhile, what are the plus points and not so great points that you think of that place as somewhere worth migrating to?
Plus points:
a) Extremely family friendly work environment, personal time is greatly respected and work schedule are planned with minimum overtime expected. Flexible working hours, as long as one clocks the agreed number of hours per week (usually 40).
b) Space, a population density of 15/sqkm makes a difference (Spore is 6000/sqkm). Although some places like shopping malls can be “crowded” at times, but one can still be around and be at ease and doesn’t feel suffocated.
c) The climate, Auckland’s climate is considered mild (not necessarily true for all parts of NZ), so it’s quite pleasant most time of the year, and plenty of sunshine throughout.
d) The landscape, natural surroundings, heaps of parks no matter where one is, beaches, mountains, etc.
Not so great points:
a) Cost, I’m not sure if this is still a problem now, with the global rising cost of living, things are definitely not cheap here, but I’m not sure if they are expensive compared to other parts of the world with similar living conditions.
b) High tax rates, every single dollar earned is taxed, saving interest is taxed, etc. About 30% of my gross income goes to taxes.
c) Weak law system, which led to higher crime rate, although generally NZ is still quite a safe place.
Neutral:
a) The people, people are mostly friendly, but there have been cases of racism around (I have no personal experience with this), I believe are driven by xenophobic, which exist almost everywhere.
Q: Are there certain jobs that have more demand there?
Yes, there is a list of skill shortage that’s put up on the immigration website, for people possessing those skills, they will be able to apply to come to NZ under the skill migrant category.
Although I must emphasise that looking for a job here is not as simple as possessing the required skills, I have not personally experienced great difficulties in getting my skills or experience recognised, but I have read about people with skills who can’t find suitable employment. One common reason cited is the lack of “Kiwi Experience”, though nobody can explain what that is.
Q: Can you survive without a car in NZ?
I have been surviving without a car all the time I’m here. Public transport is not excellent, but is still accessible, it’s a matter of planning your trip around the timetable, which is readily available online.
Living in the CBD helps because almost everything is within walking distance. On the other hand, parking in the CDB is extremely expensive, between NZ$3 to NZ$10 per hour. So owning a car is not a good idea.
I do miss out on things like outings to the remote beaches, plantations, orchards, vineyards, some tourist spots, etc, which are not accessible by public transport. Maybe not because I don’t own a car, but because I do not really drive, because rental cars are readily available if the need arises.
Q: What do you do during the weekends and week nights?
On week nights I would usually cook and have my dinner, after which I’ll laze around, watching TV and to catch up on things on the Internet. Weekends are for grocery shopping, household chores, trips to the parks, or library. I would sometimes take a walk around my neighbourhood, or to the malls. Other than those activities, it’s more lazing around.
Q: With the high income tax, would one still be able to cope with rental, expenses, and still manage to save?
I guess this mainly boils down to how far one is willing to go in cutting expenses and living frugally. I noticed that many people are willing to pay for convenience, eg. eating out, buying things in just one supermarket (different supermarkets have different things on sale each week).
If one plans ahead and shops carefully, it’s actually not very hard to keep to a certain budget. Sales are good opportunities to bag good bargains, if one is patient enough to wait for them.
Besides my rental and expenses here, I’m also sending money home for my mother’s expenses and to pay for the mortgage of the flat. After all these, I’m able to save about 20% – 30% of my take home pay. With careful planning on the recurrence expenses, eg. Rental, groceries, etc.
Q: Does living abroad make you more inclined to check out the news back home more frequently?
Yes, for various reasons:
a) To evaluate the situation in each place, which may help in my decision on where to live in the coming years.
b) Can be great conversation topics with friends. Because most of the friends I talk to nowadays still pretty much back home, ironically.
Q: Would you think about moving to other countries to stay there after this experience?
Definitely yes, the experience is not one can get from being a tourist. Every country is unique , especially multi cultural countries.
Q: Do you miss home often? What are the things that you miss back home?
Until now (1.5 years) I do not miss home at all. As much as I would like to have my family and friends with me often, I appreciate the time to be away and be on my own. Although I can’t tell what’s the effect in the long run.
Besides the family and friends, I think the next thing that I miss most is the food back home. It’s not very difficult to find similar food here, but the taste can be different and they are more expensive (generally the case when eating out), so they are more like occasional treats. Being able to cook or learn to cook helps a lot, and it’s healthier.
A few things that have got me thinking:
1) Why is it that having live in domestic helpers (aka maids) is not a norm here?
2) What are the government policies that enables the elderly people to choose whether to continue working into their old age or to retire comfortably? I don’t see many old people who are working not because they choose to.
3) A multi party government, is it a good system? With the whole system under the close scrutiny of all the parties, there seem to be self regulation within the system such that bad things don’t happen, because if they do, the other parties will start jumping on the culprit
– If you are thinking of moving overseas, getting out of the country, do drop your comments here 
Connection with others
I wonder how many people keep in touch with those that they know through their lives.
I have friends whom I’m still in touch with for decades, since school days. Friends who I know when I was young, keeping in touch by snail mail, in the form of greeting cards every year. Colleagues who became friends. Once in a while, I also keep in touch with those that I’ve clicked with, even if I’ve only knew them for a short while.
Other times, I’m just bored. Trying to look for someone to talk to over MSN, only to realise that that person may no longer have common topics with me, or that we have grown apart.
Connecting with others, finding out how they are, sharing stories and life experiences are things that many people like to do. How many really do bother to keep contact with their “old time” friends from school days unless they had fun then? How many would take the effort to do that when they are caught up with work, life, interests etc?
I’m glad I’ve made the effort to connect with new people, with those that have crossed my paths before, and those I grew up with. That type of connection needs effort from both parties, and time to grow that connection.
Have you connected with someone recently?
